One of the most exhausting things to do in life is to constantly seek the approval or validation from others.Our digital skills incubation program gives mentees an opportunity to write down their weakness, obstacles for growth and what they think stops them from pursuing their dreams . One of the most common response is “ I always seek validation from people”We often find ourselves in a loop hole , going round and round because every time we think of making a life changing decision we seek validation from people who do not have the same vision as us. These people will give you advice according to what they know and chances are very high , you might change your plans if they do not validate .Seeking validation from others for a quick boost of confidence is a natural tendency.People are generally brought up receiving validation from parents, teachers, bosses etc ,but there are times you just need to be yourself and make decisions according to your vision.How you can stop seeking validation ( Inspired by wikihow )Develop a sense of self-worth. Be aware of your need to please others and refrain from giving in too easily. Pleasing other people should not be your sole purpose in life.Do more things independently. Go to more places alone to get used to being in a public atmosphere by yourself. Without others around, you can get a sense of what you would like to be doing as opposed to what others may wish for you to doFocus on your good qualities. Make a list of the things you like about yourself and focus on them. A list can provide you with clear motivators for why you are perfectly capable as an individual. Be true to yourself. Don’t have unrealistic expectations for yourself. Although you should focus on the good qualities, that doesn’t mean you are ever going to be perfect.Put yourself first. Don’t always say yes to people, be honest with them. If you don’t want to do something, speak up! People will understand and come around if they truly care about you.Stop comparing yourself to others. When you compare yourself to others, it isn’t doing anything productive. Everyone is incredibly unique and has their own abilities.Set goals for yourself. Don’t live to please others, but live to please yourself instead. Still consider other people’s perspectives, but don’t focus entirely on themBegin living for yourself. It is okay to be a little selfish sometimes. After all, it’s your life. Be who you are and be proud of it, there is nothing wrong with doing that. Happy new Week#tofaraonline
